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There are times when you suffer a loss and did not have the chance to express yourself fully. Perhaps you weren't able to complete your communications and forgive them. Or, you may not have had the opportunity to tell them how much you appreciated and loved them. In your role as a caregiver, perhaps you have presently already lost your loved one through a dementia or through heavy sedation from medications etc.
When there is no opportunity to take your relationships to completion you may suffer from guilt and anxiety. You might also be hurt and resentful. Any number of feelings may arise. All are natural.
The questions is do you want to carry these feelings within you for the rest of your lives or would you like to free yourself so you can experience more love, peace and happiness in your life?
One of the best ways to release the feelings you have is through writing a letter to your loved one. It can be extremely cathartic as experienced by several of the caregivers who have written their stories for the caregiver's spotlight.
Make time to sit quietly and relax in your own energy. Breathing in love & light on each inhalation and letting go of all your worries, fears and doubts on the exhale. Breathe into all the areas where you are experiencing tension and see that tension leaving your body on your exhale.
Upon reaching a relaxed state, envision in your mind's eye, the individual that you are not complete with. Imagine them sitting opposite you. Begin having a dialogue, discussing your feelings with them. Do not project what they may be thinking for this is a time for you to express yourself fully while they listen attentively. Take the time to speak about everything that is on your mind and that you have been holding in.
When you are finished come back into this reality and write a letter to them expressing everything that you spoke with them about in your vision. Be as detailed as possible.
You may choose to save your letter as a reminder of your completetion. You may also choose to burn it and let it go forever. You will experience a calming and peace that will allow you to move forward in your life with a renewed outlook.
Blessings to you..
Copyrighted by Gail R. Mitchell 07/20/2000