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Thoughts On What Love Is & What Love Isn't

(This excerpt is from Harvey's book, "The Power, The Art, and the Joy Of Self Love - How to Love Yourself So Much That Negative People And Situations Can't Stand Being Around You")

A loving state of mind
intuitively reveals ideas
and a level of self-confidence that
contribute to a life of joy, while causing
the mind and body to naturally repel
discord and disharmony.

    The more loving you are
    the more creative is your mind
    and the healthier is your body.
    T
    he more you are
    angry, fearful and stressful,
    the more vulnerable is your body
    and limiting is your mind.

      "BUT," you say, you are
      a loving person. You go out of your
      way for other people 'til it hurts.
      You are the first one to sacrifice and
      compromise for the sake
      of someone else.
      You think of the needs and feelings of others before you think of your own needs and feelings.
      And still you struggle at times
      and have pain at times.

"HOWEVER," I reply.........

..............love is not going out of your way for others ' til it hurts. Love is not sacrifice and compromise for the sake of someone else. Love is not discounting your feelings and needs.

THAT'S
SELF-
DESTRUCTION.

Self-love
is to go out of your way to honor and respect
YOUR
feelings and needs.
And then you will stop
hurting and stop struggling.

You hurt and struggle
because you deny and repress
what feels good for you
because you think
that to honor
your feelings and needs
is to be selfish
and inconsiderate of others.

You hurt and struggle
because you expect others
to deny and repress
their feelings and needs for you
because you think that
for others to honor
their feelings and needs
is to be selfish
and inconsiderate
of you.

Self-love
is to love yourself

so
much

that you do not
depend upon or expect others
to deny their "self" for you.

Depending upon or expecting
others to deny their "self" for you
only leads to disappointment,
which leads to anger,
which leads to
resentment,
which causes.........
T-R-O-U-B-L-E.

LOOK,

you cannot please people
who are displeased with themselves.
They will find fault with you no matter what you do....
NO MATTER HOW MUCH
YOU COMPROMISE -
NO MATTER HOW MUCH
YOU SACRIFICE.

That's just the way THEY are.
And those who feel pleased and good about
themselves do not need you to please them.
They will love and accept you
without conditions.
Even at those times you screw up
and make mistakes.
That's just the way THEY are.
It is not your responsibility,
nor is it possible for you
to please anyone. Them that loves ya,
will love ya no matter what.
Them that finds fault with ya,
will find fault with ya, no matter what.
So, you might want to consider........
learning to do and be
what's good for you. Huh?
That's self-love.

Love is
not something
you get, even though it may appear
to be that way at times.

Love is
something
you give.

      Love is
      something
      you express as............

acceptance,

patience,

understanding,

encouragement,

optimism,

kindness,

empathy,

and appreciation.

You are either expressing
love or you are
expressing
the with-holding of love.

You express
the with with-holding of love
as...................

blame,

irritation,

impatience,

unacceptance,

complaining,

fault finding,

guilt,

discouragement,

and critical judgment of any kind.

You draw to yourself the people
and conditions that represent
what you are expressing.
You repel from yourself
the people and
conditions that represent
what you are not expressing.

Like everything else in the universe,
it's mathematical. Like 1+1=2

When you are really
good at loving yourself,
you diminish the
possibility for you to struggle
in any area
of your
life.

The only thing the energy
of self-love knows
how to do, is to
compel you to
enjoy life to
the fullest
in every
area of
your
life. THE ONLY THING.

..................Your the one that chooses
"love" or chooses something less than
"love". It' always your choice.
Always
was,
Always
will
be.

Self-Love Is
knowing the "truth".
The 'truth" is:

If you are not
expressing love,
you cannot experience
being loved

..............no
matter
how
many
people
are
loving
you.
.....
The more you value and
treasure your true Identity,
(that's called self-love),
the more you attract
loving, accepting
and supportive people.

All love expressed
is SELF-LOVE.
It matters not
where or to whom
love is directed.

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