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Lol
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posted 04-18-2003 10:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lol     Edit/Delete Message
my husband had a stroke in sept and lost all movement in his right side. Although his leg has come back a lot he is still relearning balance and walking. Thankfully speech was not a problem like we thought it would be at the beginning. He was only 39 when it happened and we have a 3yr old boy and now I'm left wondering what the hell happened to my life. I know it will never be the same and who knows maybe in some ways it will be better but right there are times when I get so angry: at life, at him, at me. We had all these plans and now I'm grieving for a life that will never be. How do I stay positive? Not only for me and my husband but especially for my son-I want him to have a happy childhood not one filled with sadness and anger. It feels good just to type this out sometimes I feel overwhelmed

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PrairieGal
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posted 04-19-2003 08:47 AM           Edit/Delete Message
Hi Lol and welcome...

Sorry about your husband..I know it can take you totally by surprise when one is still so young...
I see from your post that writing(journalling) makes you feel a little better..I have found that too over the years...I hope you can find some time to browse through the journalling exercises here at the site..this is your first step...reaching out and sharing...with others who know only too well what you are going through..
I hope your husband is still doing therapy? It is surprising what that can do to get a stroke victim back all or most of their faculties.
Please keep us posted as to how you all are doing...tell us more about your situation...
take care...and Happy Easter..
PrairieGal

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GRM4LOVE
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posted 04-21-2003 02:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GRM4LOVE     Edit/Delete Message
Hello LOL and welcome

I am sorry to hear that your dear hubby is so young and has suffered from a stroke. I can imagine the mixed feelings both of you are experiencing..Unfortunately, we learn many things from caregiving as well...and there are many small things we need to focus on being in gratitude for.

Warren's Spotlight in the archives is a wonderful support for you.. his wife had a stroke at 32 and he had two youngish children as well... read his story... email him... he will respond...

there are also some listservs for stroke that you might want to sign up with.. one site was establish by a gal who had a stroke at 19... this is the link
http://www.strokesafe.org/e-mail_lists.html

and there are many resources scattered throughout the site for stroke and what you can do...

please know that you have a safe place to let go and heal here...we look forward to seeing you here more often...and perhaps in the chats as well..

blessings
Gail

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AlisonM
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posted 04-24-2003 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AlisonM     Edit/Delete Message
Dear Lol.... so very hard when someone has a stroke so young. My husband was 68 when he had his, 12 years ago. One of the things I find quite amazing is the body's ability to do a lot of repair. This takes a lot of time and excercise and patience.

I will be thinking of you both.... do take care and ensure that you, yourself, are important in this journey. Do you have good family and friend supports to allow you to have pamper occasions (or maybe just a nonsense day with a girlfriend, nothing better than silly laughter)? Take the times you need when you can.

Look forward to hearing how you are doing... my love to you, A

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